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Fighting Our Instincts

March 29, 2009

So last night, WanderPapa and I were in the kitchen when WanderBoy started pitching a fit in the living room.  High pitched whining escalated to yelling, inevitable arm flailing and ultimate crumpling to the floor in hysterics.

My instinct:  stomp into the living room, yell impatiently for him to knock it off.  This usually leads to me dragging him into a one-minute time-out that becomes a 5  minute ordeal.  He hits, I furiously pin his arms to his sides, we sit on the stairs, tears streaming down his face.  Me feeling like shit for being rough.

WanderPapa’s instinct:  cajole, re-direct, kiss ass.  This usually leads to a calm resolution but no real sense that whining, hitting and throwing oneself on the floor is bad.

So what happened:  WP held me back from entereing the room, and moments later I did the same to him.

Neither solution seems to work long-term.  Ignoring is the key.  It’s just so hard to do.